Become Who You Were Meant to Be
You’ve spent your life becoming who they needed.
It’s time to come home to your truth.
Online, integrative therapy
for women who are
done over-performing &
self-sacrificing
Hi there, I’m
Dr. Kalianivala
(but you can call me by my first name, Anahita. Hear how to pronounce my name.)
I’m probably not your first therapist, but I might be the last one you’ll need.
Because I know this isn’t your first rodeo.
You’ve done everything they said would help.
You’re strong, capable, and self-aware.
But something still feels off.
You’re rewriting texts five times before sending.
Replaying conversations the other person already forgot.
Saying “I’m fine” when your chest is aching otherwise.
Wondering why you just can’t feel better, even after all your efforts.
It’s not that you didn’t try hard enough.
Or that you have some fatal flaw.
You’re not too sensitive, too much, or not enough.
It’s that you’ve been conditioned to survive in systems, relationships, and roles that were never designed to hold the full you.
This is where the un-doing begins—
To discover your truth
beneath the pushing and proving,
the bypassing and apologizing.
I call this Slow Therapy.
The kind of space that moves at the pace of your breath, your body, and your inner truth. Not at the speed of pressure, performance or perfection.
Paced by your body’s wisdom
Grounded in clinical depth
Rooted in your sovereignty
This is integrative support for the one who’s finally ready to:
…stop abandoning herself,
…rewrite the rules, and
…live in alignment with the worth she has always carried.
This is un-doing.
Want a deeper look inside this slow, intuitive space for healing and reclamation? Take a peek into my 6-month program, The Groundwork — and explore what makes this therapeutic season different.
Do any of these feel familiar?
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You’ve felt the moment your body tightens with a “no” while your voice gives a “yes.” Where “I’m sorry” slips out on instinct, and your throat holds all the words you didn’t say so no one gets upset. You’ve been carrying the weight of keeping the peace, even when it costs you your own clarity, comfort, and truth.
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Your mind spins before your feet even touch the floor. Conversations loop, to-do lists stack in your chest, and your body stays tense like it’s bracing for the next shoe to drop. You handle everything, hold everything, anticipate everything — and still feel a relentless pressure to keep it all together.
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You know too well that sensation of running on adrenaline long after your tank is empty. You move from one crisis to the next, saying yes with a tight jaw and a tired heart, hoping things will ease but never actually slowing down. Rest feels foreign (if not unsafe) and you worry that stopping would cause everything to fall apart.
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You know how draining it is to wake up already feeling behind in your own body. You’ve tried resting, pushing, “doing it right.” And still, it’s like your energy slips away before the day even begins. You move in cycles of effort, crash, and confusion — wondering if you’re missing something or if your body is just broken. And you’re tired of feeling like the body you live in is a place you can’t rely on.
No matter your starting point,
I believe there is a path back to yourself.
The heart of this work is reconnecting with your own rhythm — so you can feel grounded, clear, and at ease.
This work isn’t about erasing the past or bypassing memories.
It’s about rewiring how you hold it — so you can finally walk through life without carrying other people’s burdens.
If you’re done pretending everything is “fine.”
If you’re tired of wondering about whether “real change” is even possible.
If you’re done living in survival mode and ready to honor your own rhythms.
Without question.
Without apology.
Without take-backs.
You’re in the right place.
How do I know? Because, I’ve lived it, too.
In this short video, I share a bit of my own burnout “origin story.” You’ll hear what it revealed about my patterns of overachievement, how my nervous system stayed stuck in fight-or-flight, and why no amount of “fixing” ever felt like enough.
Even when life looked good on the outside.
With over a decade of deep clinical experience, I’m fiercely committed to helping you heal — and return to the version of yourself that feels clear, connected, and fully alive.
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"It feels like bragging, but I'm taking credit for being able to cope... you've helped me tremendously."
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"Your voice is like a key to feeling safe."
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"Damn, you're good. You f*cking shattered my mind with that shit."
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"My anxiety is dropping. I feel more at ease and comfortable. It's like the normalcy I had before... It feels really good."
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"I've seen a lot of therapists... and being able to do this work with you means a lot to me. I'm so grateful I found you."
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"You just pick up on everything. It's awesome... I wish I'd found you in my 30s."
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Schedule a Free
Connection Call
If you’ve been craving ease — in your body, in your nervous system, and in the way you relate to others — let’s begin here.
This 15-minute video call is a chance to explore what support might look like, and whether it’s time
for un-doing✨ in your healing path.
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Read My Love Letter
To the strong one, the perfectionist, the one who’s tired of always being on.
I wrote this for you.
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